The maxim that people don’t change is wrong. I’ve changed over my 39 years of marriage, and so has my wife. And I’ve seen plenty of other husbands and wives change. Some big changes, some small, and some ongoing. Real change, significant lasting change,..

When we go to church, Lori and I can take as many as four kids with us. Today it was just me and the five-year-old grandson. For thirty-five minutes both ways. We had a blast, but I realised I give my grandson a lot... The post The Power of Choosing to Gi

Mixing it up a bit sexually can be a good thing. But its important to make sure what we do is good for our wife. So let me suggest something different that most women can enjoy. Simply put, you sit behind her and make...The post Sit Behind Her and Give

This is a follow-up on Confessions of the Husband of a Sex Positive Wife post, and specifically comments and emails generated by the post. you can be the best person possible, even near perfect, but if your wife doesnt want to also do this,...The post

Lets talk about your marriage and sex life as self-care. If your marriage and sex life are a source of stress, this may not make sense to you. But when your marriage is healthy, it can be a great source of calm. It can...The post Marriage and Sex as Sel

We hear a lot about self-care these days. Some scoff at it as weakness or a waste of time that could be better used in other ways. Thing is, the Bible is all about self-care. The 23rd Psalm would be one example. One pastor...The post The Importance of

In todays sermon, our pastor talked about autopilot. We all have places in our lives that run this way, and it can be a good thing. But it can also cause us problems because we miss things we need to embrace, challenge, or otherwise...The post Avoid Mar

Lets talk about frameworks and sex. We all have a framework for sex. And most of us had a significant framework for it long before we ever had sex. By the time you were with your wife, your framework was massive and probably set...The post Breaking Fre

A couple of weeks ago, Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage wrote 10 Confessions of a Wife Who Loves Sex. Then J of Hot, Holy & Humorous did her Confessions of a Sex-Happy Wife and it became a trend. You can find five such...The post FF: Confessions

I want to talk a bit more about our mental frameworks for marriage. In particular, how we got those frameworks. Its rare to intentionally build a mental framework. We generally start with something we pick up from others, and modify it. So our framework