Perspective with Donna

Perspective with Donna


Episode 65: Varsity Blues

April 22, 2019

Kick It with Donna episode 65
Varsity Blues
How do we make sense of the college admissions scandal?  Were you a helicopter parent or were you a parent who tried to remove obstacles from your kids path?

Show Notes:  I have two guests with me today.  Chrissy Conner and her daughter Madison Auge.  Madison is 22 years old and is graduating from Oklahoma University this May.  Her degree is in Human Relations.  Chrissy owns and operates her own recruiting company, Conner International.  She recruits talent and has a gift of placing people in the right place.  She runs her company with her heart and soul.

Madison’s perspective is very interesting.  She talks about how nervous she gets taking an exam and the peer pressure involved when the class takes the exam together.  Many times, there is a time limit to complete the exam.  One of her pet peeves is that everyone applying to a college is rated solely on their ACT or SAT score.  She took neither.  Her professors wrote recommendations and her entrance essay allowed her admission.  How many students out there have that same anxiety over taking an exam?

Madison also felt that the reason parents chose that path to pay their kids way into the top echelon of schools might have more to do with getting into a college they couldn’t afford to get into.  What if sports is the issue here? Did the dad want to row and wasn’t good enough to do so?  Did the mom want to be a soccer star and wasn’t good enough?  Those are strong motivations.

Chrissy and I felt that a sense of entitlement was involved.  People that are wealthy think that their money can buy them anything.  They think that rules are for everyone else.  Think about how that makes other students feel that got into college on their own merit.  Lawsuits will be flying (a few already are).  What about the schools themselves?  They have some questions to answer.

Chrissy and Madison are very close.  Madison will be working for her mom after she graduates.  Rarely, do I see two family members that just work great together.  Chrissy is very proud of her daughter for getting into the college of her choice and is excited to work with her.

Since this podcast falls under the series of Self Discovery, I found myself guilty of trying to remove obstacles from my kids' paths.  I had to struggle, why should they?  Because they need to.  How can they ever value their achievements if they didn’t hit the potholes needed to achieve success?  This discovery is important to me.  It is helping me understand how I operate.  I can’t make changes if I’m not aware of an issue in the first place.  Hindsight is a beautiful thing isn’t it?