(Listener Note: This is Step #6 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order). I keep getting stuck in what was. 2 tools to shift your gaze from the rear view mirror to the front windshield during divorce.  With Karen McMahon and Sheila Knopp. It is both normal and easy to label ourselves and / or our spouse as bad or wrong during divorce.  We can live in regret or with rose color glasses as we keep our eyes glued to the rear view mirror.  Our judgement of the past, which is often unconscious thought behavior, locks us into the hurt and pain that we so deeply want to escape. Explore a new practice of Curiosity.  Consider what might happen if you didn’t firmly believe you knew everything… the why and how, and the motivation or thought behind every action. While our judgement keeps us stuck in old thought patterns that add to our suffering, curiosity opens the possibility for new learning, growth and healing. Consider how letting go of your judgement of the past enables you to embrace the possibility of the future. Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com.