The Space Between: Conflict Resolution with Dr. Tammy Lenski

The Space Between: Conflict Resolution with Dr. Tammy Lenski


Latest Episodes

Every conflict contains a bid to be seen
September 03, 2019

One reason disagreements turn into conflict and ongoing tension is our failure to see — or acknowledge that we see — the other person in the way they most deeply wish to be seen in the world. One way to disagree better is to respond to their bid to be ...

How to influence the way people act during conflict
July 23, 2019

In this episode If you believe someone is aggressive, could they behave more aggressively with you than with others? If someone believes you are a hostile person, are you likely to act more hostile when you interact with them?

A way to turn anger into curiosity
June 05, 2019

In this episode Only people we love and care deeply about can make us so angry we want to blow a gasket, says famed Star Trek actor George Takei. When someone or something we care deeply about sparks big anger,

Replay: How to express a concern without making things worse
May 21, 2019

In this episode This is a replay of a 2018 episode. When I ask clients why they let a problem go on for so long before addressing it, a common reply is, “I was afraid I’d create more conflict by raising it.” It’s an understandable fear.

Start with a small yes
May 10, 2019

In this episode The outset of a difficult conversation often feels like a back-and-forth trading of position and perspective with little common ground. Here’s how to use the psychology of agreement to begin shifting that kind of positional debate to co...

Start with a small yes
May 10, 2019

The outset of a difficult conversation often feels like a back-and-forth trading of position and perspective with little common ground. Here’s how to use the psychology of agreement to begin shifting that kind of positional debate to collaborative proble.

Slow down and be the Bedouin
April 23, 2019

In this episode It feels productive to toss out ideas for a solution and demonstrate how much we want to help. But it’s usually unproductive if we haven’t done something essential first: Make sure we understand the problem from their frame of reference...

Slow down and be the Bedouin
April 23, 2019

It feels productive to toss out ideas for a solution and demonstrate how much we want to help. But it’s usually unproductive if we haven’t done something essential first: Make sure we understand the problem from their frame of reference. Show notes Eurek.

Do the next right thing
April 09, 2019

In this episode When we’re overwhelmed by a difficult conversation, one reason can be that we’re too focused on the horizon and not focused enough on the very next step. A very helpful mindset in moments like this is to “do the next right thing.

Do the next right thing
April 09, 2019

When we’re overwhelmed by a difficult conversation, one reason can be that we’re too focused on the horizon and not focused enough on the very next step. A very helpful mindset in moments like this is to "do the next right thing." Show notes Burlington T.