The Wild Edges of Being Human

The Wild Edges of Being Human


Soulie Debrief

August 04, 2019

Transcription:
This is Episode #57! This is Allison Crow, and when this podcast started out, it started out as recordings from Better Life, Better Work Live that I did on Facebook. And so since I am the boss of me and the boss of my podcast, I’m going to do what feels good for me when it feels good, because I realized that’s what works in my business. So this episode is called Soulie Debrief, and I am going to be sharing a little bit of behind the scenes, what’s working, what’s not working as a soulful business owner, and I am recording this episode on a Facebook Live. So as you know, with some of my podcasts, some of them are recorded me by myself talking to my computer, and I also really enjoy doing some of these live. 
Soulie Debrief. This came from a concept that I have learned from one of my mentors, Tara Newman, in a community of women leaders that I am in. And three Fridays a month, or no, two Fridays a month, we do what is called a CEO debrief, and there’s another gal in there, Rachael Cook, that has a CEO date in her business model, and I love getting together and we have various conversations. The context often changes as Tara leads us through these. Some of the questions are the same, but the context can change. Either way, doing a weekly debrief with a series of questions, and I’m not going to even get to all the questions that can be in a CEO debrief, for me, this is the Soulie Debrief today,.
I have three questions when I sit back and look over the last six, seven months and especially the last two months of business. Now I’m not going to be completely thorough in going through six months, but I am going to share, and the reason I share behind the scenes is so that you … What’s your version, right? As you listen, as I’m asking these questions, how does it translate to your world?
I realize that I’m talking all about me and what I’m learning, but my favorite Soulies and clients and learners are able to translate when I share a personal story or personal insights, their own custom version.
The first question of my Soulie Debrief today that I want to share with you is,
“What’s not working?” I certainly have felt over the last few months some of the what’s not working. I have been focused on a whole lot of the what’s not working, but I wasn’t really clear yet, and through the last couple of weeks I have become clear.
So here is what is not working.

* Self-judgment is not working. I just spent a year with John Morgan in Creator’s Circle and my biggest takeaway from that was, “What if I didn’t judge it?” And I realize how much my self-judgment and self-criticism is taking away any peace of mind that I have. It goes against self-trust. So this doesn’t mean that I’m not a noticer. It doesn’t mean that I’m not assessing, and evaluating, and experimenting. And generally, you guys, I don’t look at myself in the mirror and tell myself I’m horrible. I don’t do a lot of self beat, and I do realize that I have been doing a lot of subconscious self-judgment. So self-judgment is not working.

 

* Number two: Information overload is not working. Information overload is not working. So this includes more courses, more how-to. This is where my self-judgment comes in. So for example, I am in the achievement phase of my business. I value personal growth, and I can avoid boring work, difficult emotions, by running to learn something new. Self-judgment can cause that by saying, “Oh, if you know how to do Instagram stories right, you’ll grow. You’ll get more clients if you just did this marketing thing right.