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What 10 learnings have you had about the 7 Habits since the book’s release

June 07, 2019

1. The importance of understanding the difference between principles and values.   
Principles are natural laws that are external to us and that ultimately control the consequences of our actions. Values are internal and subjective and represent that which we feel strongest about in guiding our behavior.

Values govern people’s behavior but principles govern the consequences of those behaviors.

I have come to believe that humility is the mother of all virtues. Humility says we are not in control, principles are in control, therefore we submit ourselves to principles.

Pride says that we are in control, and since our values govern our behavior, we can simply do life our way. We may do so but the consequences of our behavior flow from principles, not our values. Therefore we should value principles.

2. The Universal nature of principles
I have come to see the universal nature of the principles undergirding this material. Illustrations and practices may vary and are culturally specific, but the principles are the same. I have found the principles contained in the 7 Habits in all six major world religions.

There is an internal sense of the principle of justice or win/win.

There is an internal moral sense of the principle of responsibility, of the principle of purpose, of integrity, of respect, of cooperation, of communication, of renewal. These are universal. But practices are not. They are situationally specific. Every culture interprets universal principles in unique ways.
3. Organizational implications
I have come to see the organizational implications of the 7 Habits, although, in the strict technical sense, an organization does not have habits. Its culture has norms or mores or social codes, which represent habits.

“An organization also has established systems, processes, and procedures. These represent habits. In fact, in the last analysis, all behavior is personal.”
4.Which habit to learn first
You can teach all 7 Habits by starting with anyone habit. And you can also teach one habit in a way that leads to the teaching of the other six. It’s like a hologram where the whole is contained in the part and the part is contained in the whole.
5. Start with the outside challenge (then take the inside-out approach)
Even though the 7 Habits represents an inside - out approach, it works most successfully when you start with the outside challenge and then take the inside - out approach.

In other words, if you are having a relationship challenge, say a breakdown of communication and trust, this will define the nature of the needed inside - out approach in winning the kind of private victory that enables the public victory meeting that challenge. This is the reason I often teach Habits 4, 5, and 6 before I teach Habits 1, 2, and 3.
6. Interdependence is much harder than independence
Interdependence is ten times more difficult than independence.

It demands so much more mental and emotional independence to think win/win when another person is into the win /lose, to seek to understand first when everything inside you cries out for understanding and to search for a better third alternative when compromise is so much easier.

In other words, to work successfully with others in creative cooperative ways requires an enormous amount of independence, internal security, and self - mastery.

Otherwise, what we call interdependency is really counter-dependency where people do the opposite to assert their independence or codependency where they literally need the other person’s weakness to fulfill their need and to justify their own weakness.
7. A simple summary of 1st 3 and next 3 habits
You can pretty well summarize the first three habits with the expression “make and keep a promise.