The Wedding Podcast

The Wedding Podcast


TWP 015 : Are You Ready For Marriage? Questions You Need To Answer

March 03, 2013

Are you really ready for marriage? Have you and your partner discussed the things that you need to before your wedding day? Or, do you hope and expect the little things you disagree on now to simply go away after your wedding day?

I don't really have all the answers to these questions, even after being married for over 16 years myself. Sure I can answer some and possibly steer you in the right direction but it would feel "weird" talking about all that stuff on the podcast. I'm not sure if that's because I'm an Aussie bloke and we don't talk openly about all the touchy feely subjects with anyone and everyone. Maybe it's just me and I feel a little squeamish when things get all personal, I'm just not used to that.

So instead of me trying to come up with the important answers, I called an expert on the subject. Tony diLorenzo and his wife Alisa have their own show, a podcast, One Extraordinary Marriage with thousands of listeners all over the world. Tony and Alisa have been podcasting for over 3 years and when it comes to opening up, talking and getting deep, Tony is the man!

During the interview with Tony, we cover the following:

How to best deal with your future in-laws if there are issues now

Topics you absolutely must discuss with your partner before your wedding
Sex and how to keep things interesting in the bedroom... and elsewhere
Intimacy and why it's important
Do you really know how to communicate with each other?
Tony and Alisa's 60 days of sex challenge
Date nights
Naked Wii bowling adventures
How to open up to each other
Recognising problems and dealing with them the right way
77 Questions you should ask before your wedding

For a little background on Tony and what makes him such a good teacher in this subject, he and Alisa faced and came very close to divorce only four years into their marriage, Tony had an addiction to pornography, they very sadly lost their second child, have been through marriage counselling and now lead the most extraordinary marriage filled with love, intimate sex and communication. Plus, because he talks about all this real life experience openly and daily, he makes the perfect guy to answer my questions for The Wedding Podcast.

Another wet wedding day on the Central Coast
In local news, I stress this will not be a weekly topic, it was another wet wedding for my gorgeous bride Sally on her wedding day. Instead of focussing on how to deal with a rainy wedding day as we have done in the past, it's more about what you should be focusing on for your wedding day.

To make my point, I reference an article I read earlier this week from the Huffington Post in which the author, Ann Almasy, a wedding photographer says:

But my job -- MY job -- is to see past all that. My job is to give you photos that will remind you why you had that damn expensive party in the first place.

If you're planning your wedding right now, please just close the magazine. Log out of Pinterest. And look at the person you want to grow old with. Remind yourself of why you're doing this. And really CELEBRATE when that day comes. Don't stress about your shoes or your cake or your flowers. Don't stress about anything. When it's all over, you will be married, and surrounded by the people who know you and love you most in the whole wide world.

I promise: that is the Perfect Wedding.

I couldn't agree more with the complete article and have a link below. There really does come a time to get off Pinterest, close the wedding magazines and concentrate on the person you're about to marry and the people you are going to surround yourself with on that amazing day.

A dud wedding photography appointment for me
Also covered in this episode is the importance of clicking with your wedding service providers when booking them for your wedding day. It has become a bit of a cliche that you do have to click but that point was driven home for me this week when I felt like I was working my butt...