You want to save your marriage (or you wouldn't be here, right??). But you may not know what to do. Most people don't. - I mean, let's face it: most people don't do a lot to prepare to be married. M

We all have limiting beliefs. You... me... and your spouse! I always work to change my limiting beliefs. You are probably doing the same. But you can't just change your spouse's limiting beliefs!

Just to be clear, people don't simply end up divorced. They don't go from a loving, connected marriage to a painful, hurting divorce. There are some stops along the way. - As people progress along t

The shift from connection to disconnection happens when people (inadvertently) hit the Pause Button on their marriage. It isn't ill-intended. It usually just happens in the busyness of life. Still, re

Many people tell me how they WANT to save their marriage (they really, really do), but they aren't DOING it. They can't seem to get started with their efforts. Yes, they know the clock is ticking.

We all "show ourselves" in our interactions with others. Sometimes, we truly Show Up, bringing our best self to the relationship. - Other times, we bring an angry/resentful presence to the table. Ot

Has your spouse lost hope in your marriage's future? - You want a warm and loving relationship, but it has had a rough patch. You see a way forward, but your spouse can't see it. If that is the case

It is not about "communication," no matter what you hear (from friends or a therapist). Most people communicate just fine. They have another issue: perception. How they perceive each other, that i

We all have hurts from close relationships -- and especially in marriages. It is impossible to be in such an intimate relationship and not bump into each other (in hurtful ways) over and over. The p

Do you ever feel like you are dancing with your spouse... and not a fun dance?? - Most of the time, couples get into habits. They both know the steps, and they just keep going through them, 1-2-3, 1-